When Should You Try to Get Pregnant After Stillbirth

Whenever you’re ready.

This seems too simple to be true. I know. I was in your shoes. The truth is you should try again whenever you feel like you want to try again.

One of the things I couldn’t stop thinking about was trying to get pregnant again. I knew I wouldn’t even begin to feel right again until I was holding a baby in my arms. I wanted my son, Hunter to have a little brother or sister. I wanted this for him and I wanted this for me. I began searching how long it takes to get pregnant after birth, how to get pregnant fast, etc., for the first time in my life. I wasn’t “trying” to get pregnant when I became pregnant with my son, Hunter. I didn’t understand why or how anyone could want to try and get pregnant. I thought it was as simple as having sex without a condom on and letting your man cum inside of you as often as possible. I thought it was extremely easy to get pregnant and I didn’t understand the desperation and longing of becoming pregnant until after I lost my son.

I asked my OBGYN when it was okay to try and become pregnant again and he told me to wait 6 months to a year… He was a terrible OBGYN throughout my pregnancy with Hunter and I’m glad I didn’t listen to him after I lost Hunter. I tried to become pregnant again right away. Unfortunately, I also was diagnosed with a Pulmonary Embolism less than a month after I lost my son and I wasn’t as focused on becoming pregnant at the time because I had to be on blood thinners for 3 months. I also was worried if I would become pregnant that I would suffer a Pulmonary Embolism again which was terrifying being an otherwise healthy 23 year old female with no clotting disorders or any issues in my blood that would make me more likely to get a PE.

Well, in December of 2016 I was able to stop blood thinners at any time I wanted. I decided to stop and I started trying to conceive again. I thought I was pregnant and I got extremely happy only for my period to come 3-5 days late that month. I was sad when it came, it made me want to give up home. I ordered HCG tests less than a month after I lost Hunter and I began trying to figure out my cycle again. I stopped using these when I didn’t get pregnant again in December. In late December, I bought a supplement that is supposed to help with EWCM. I took it two or three days in the week or so that I had it and maybe two or three times after my period in January. My period was due on February 9th, and it never came. I found out I was pregnant when I had just received a promotion at my job in the Gas & Oil field and I was taken back. I wouldn’t let myself get too excited yet I was also secretly happy in the back of my mind.

The truth is, I’m happy I got pregnant less than 6 months after I lost my son, Hunter. I am finally starting to be optimistic in this pregnancy and I’m now almost 31 weeks. I’ll be hospitalized due to Vasa Previa on August 21st, and she will be delivered via c-section at 33-35 weeks. I’d never tell anyone to wait a specific amount of time to get pregnant again because I wanted to be pregnant again right away. I understand why some would feel like they should wait and I definitely understand the need to be pregnant ASAP. I was missing a huge part of my life that I had prepared for with Hunter and when I became pregnant again, although it was stressful at times to worry about losing my baby girl, I took it day by day and so far everything has been great.

If you need someone to talk to or would like to know more about the products I used to try and become pregnant again, please feel free to reach out to me in the comments or send me an email! 🙂

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